genie in the lamp - the secret to succes is knowing what you want. having a clear vision for your life


It’s no secret that rainy days are challenging for any parent with young, energetic kids at home. Myself included.

But little did I know that I was about to stumble upon another little secret.

It was pouring rain outside and after playing hide and seek and building castles for the better part of the day, my 2 and 4 year-olds were tired enough to sit down and watch a movie.

We (finally) settled on the “human” version of Aladdin with none other than Will Smith as the Genie.

Growing up, I must have watched the cartoon version of Aladdin at least 100 times.

I was drawn to Jasmine’s strong will, determination and the fact that she was not like the other damsel in distress of Disney.

But as I watched this version of Aladdin, now being in my early forties, I was struck by something the Genie said.

Aladdin had just made his way out of the Cave of Wonders, contemplating making his first wish to be a Prince.

What the Genie shares next is the most important secret to your own success:

“Be very specific in your words. The deal is in the details.”


This is the key.

This is the secret.

This is how life works.

This is how success works.

We get exactly what we specifically wish for.

It doesn’t feel so much like a secret come to think of it.

We don’t need to dig our way out of a Cave of Wonder, we don’t need to rub a magic lamp, we don’t even need a blue Genie to grant us 3 wishes.

We have limitless wishes.

But what we do need is clarity.

Clarity is our Genie.

Clarity is our secret.

Your wish is my command

Let me paint this picture for you: imagine going to a restaurant and asking for the Chef’s Inspiration of the Day.

You know you have no say in what will be served. You’re relying entirely on the chef’s mood that day.

You’re relying on the Chef’s desires, not your own.

You may get lucky and have the Chef’s Inspiration align with yours.

But if you’re in the mood for a delicious, spicy, green curry and you say nothing of the sort; you may end up with sweetbreads over pureed celery rave.

This may not be up your alley and you may find yourself deeply regretting your choice.

Here’s the beauty in this scenario, which is the same beauty found in your own life and business: the choice is yours!

You can choose to forgo the Chef’s Inspiration and ask for exactly what you want: green spicy curry or say nothing at all and be at the mercy of someone else’s wish.

The secret to getting exactly what you want is…. (drumroll please)… You have to know what that want is.

Listen to the Genie, he’s been in a lamp for 10,000 years, he’s got some wisdom in him: The deal is in the details.

Ask yourself: do you really know what you want, down to the most specific details?

If I asked you what you want out of your life and your business, could you answer me?

Would you give me a vague image of what you want, like a painting of Degas or would you give me a clear and detailed image of what is truly in your heart?

Notice I didn’t say: tell me HOW you are going to get your wish. I said, tell me WHAT you wish for.

The WHAT is the secret.

Your vision is your compass

Without a vision, you have no clear idea of where you are going, no bright and shining idea of what you want, no defined road map or compass.

And if you think drafting a clear vision is too time consuming and you simply don’t have the time to get around to it, then think about this:

Not taking the time to detail a clear vision of what you want is like not having the time to set the GPS to a new destination before you start driving.

Yes you’re in a hurry.

Yes you need to get going.

But if you don’t have a map as to how you’re going to get where you want to go, you simply won’t get there.


No matter how fast you’re driving.

So take the time to get to know your vision. Take the time to understand what it is you truly want.

How does this fit into your business/career

You may be wondering how this all fits into a business/career setting. This is my blog after all and I’m all about Business Clarity.

Let me tell you another little secret.

In all of my 20 something years of working with business leaders and savvy entrepreneurs, the one thing most common amongst all those that succeeded is this: they all have a clear vision.

The most accomplished people I’ve met and worked with, from around the world, all have a vision for their lives.

All, without fail.

They all know what they wanted next, like they have their own genie in a lamp that could grant them any wish for their future.

On the other hand, people I’ve met who felt unfulfilled, who never experienced the level of success they felt they deserved, who felt stuck, unmotivated and joyless were the people who didn’t have a vision AND didn’t believe they could afford the time to create their vision.

Isn’t it funny how that works out?

Because your business, your career, is a reflection of who you are and what you wish for.

In my book, there is no point in rushing through life if you’re not going where want to get go. What’s the point of rushing towards of life and business that holds no fulfillment, joy and success.

In the absence of a clear vision, one simply wanders about and is subject to life’s whims and desires. Like our Chef’s Inspiration.

The deal is in the details

Granted, mapping out your vision may not be the easiest thing. Especially when you’re starting out with a blank canvas. (If this proves a challenge for you, get in touch with me, we’ll work on it together).

This is about creating a clear image of your best life. You can be as creative as you want.


The kicker is that you have to believe it is possible. You have to be willing to go into details about what you want.

Here are some questions to get you started.

I suggest you write these questions down on a pad of paper or in a journal.

Don’t allow yourself to get distracted. Keep writing until you feel you are allowing yourself to be honest with what you want.

  • Know what matters to you?
    • Start with your values: Family, Success, Money, Fame, Serving Others, Community…There is no wrong or right answer here so don’t think your vision will be “good” if you value family and “bad” if you value “money”.
      All there is, is your vision. What you, yourself want.
  • If you could accomplish anything, what would it be?
    • How will you feel about yourself once you’ve accomplished this task?

  • What are you passionate about?
    • Something you do that you get lost in, where you loose track of time and you are fully present in your task.

  • What does an ideal day in this life of yours looks like?
    • At what time do you wake up?
    • What do you do when you wale up?
    • What are you feeding your body?
    • What are you working on?
    • Who do you spend time with?

  • How are you presenting yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • How is your hair/makeup/style?

  • What are you learning?
    • What skills are you working on?
    • Who is mentoring/coaching you?
    • What are you doing to grow and expand your potential?

It’s about you

You may feel like you’re not getting it “perfect” the first time around.

This is not about perfection. This is about getting you started and exited about your vision.

Starting is the most important part. Then come the details.

 Don’t think your vision is final by answering these questions once.

Allow yourself to revisit this vision from time to time and to modify it as you continue to grow and expand.

The best version of the life you envision will change as you change.

To your success,


P.S. I know what it feels like to want so much out of life and to run a business that has a positive and powerful impact on the world. I understand what it’s like to read endless self-help sand business mastery books, looking for that edge that is going to calm the overwhelm and give direction to your life and your business.

I know how all of it feels like because I was stuck there for years. And so have all my clients.

Now don’t get me wrong. I LOVE self-help and business mastery books and still read them to this day. But now I know what I was missing that none of these books could give me and that is A CLEAR MISSION OF WHAT I WANT IN MY LIFE AND FOR MY LIFE.

It took me years and thousands of dollars spent on coaches, mentors, workshops and online courses to get to this point. And let’s not forget the two decades I spent travelling the world and working as an international corporate lawyer alongside top business leaders.

All of that got me to here. And HERE is to help you. Because my own mission is:

To inspire and lead others to find clarity and affirm their purpose.

No matter what stage you are at in your life, finding your purpose and getting clear on your mission is the greatest gifts you can give yourself. It is what will bring you the greatest fulfilment. Not to mention, the greatest abundance.

Abundance, yes. When you are clear on what you want, you can focus all of your energy and your willpower on making it happen. Things start flowing, new opportunities are presented to you, ideal clients and partners and adventures are directed your way.

You may not understand how this is all happening and this is far from being “magic” or some woo woo concept. This is simply you getting clear on what you want and channeling your energy accordingly.

If you are looking for that transformation, if you have reached that point where you know there is more to get from your life and your business but you just don’t know how to get there, then I can help you.

I can guide you through the step by step process of getting clear on your vision, your mission and your purpose.

My style of mentoring is tailored to you, your needs, your experiences and your desired outcomes. This is not some cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all kind of coaching.

This is for those that are willing to put in the work to get more out life and their business: more money, more abundance, more joy, more freedom, more fulfilment.

If this sounds like you, if you are like all of my other succesful clients that came to me searching for something more and getting even more out of their life and business, then I urge you to CLICK HERE and get in touch with me directly.

I will directly respond to your email. Not my assistant or another coach. I will personally assist you.

But let me make this clear for you, before you click that link. You are going to have to work for what you want. I am not the “cheerleader” type of coach.

Yes I will support you 1000% but I will also call you out when you need it most.

Remember, this is about YOU. THIS IS ABOUT YOU GETTING THE MOST OUT OF YOUR LIFE. In order to get you there, you will need to work through the process.

If you are ready then I can’t wait to work with you. CLICK HERE.

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