Why planning for the worst and hoping for the best is wrong!

goal reaching planning requires proper mindset

You’re sitting at your favourite spot at the kitchen table or in that living room chair, wondering and planning how you are going to get through this situation. Wondering and planning how you should go about it. Wondering and planning how you are going to reach that important goal of yours… So you say to yourself ” well, let’s plan for the worst and hope for the best”, right? Wrong!

I’ve heard that expression countless times and I never liked it. I never agreed with it. Why would you want to plan for the worst and merely hope for the best? Shouldn’t you plan for the best, hope for the best and forget about “the worst” part?

Every battle you face has two angels: your planning and your mindset


As you sit in your comfortable spot, setting yourself up to tackle whatever situation you are facing, you must acknowledge that there are two parts to every battle: the planning and your mindset or I should say, the mindset and the planning.

It all being with your mindset.


Your mind is your most powerful tool. It is where everything starts. The starting point to all things. Or I should say, the point before there the start…

All battles are won or lost before the battle itself ever begins. And it all begins with your mindset.

If you think you’re going to win, you are probably right. If you think you are going to lose, you are probably right to. If you think the best is gonna happen, it probably will. If you think the worst is gonna happen, it probably will to.

The outcome of a situation is largely determined by how you choose to tackle this situation.

Yes, I did say choose. Because how you show up, how your prepare yourself mentally, how you align your mindset, those are choices you have. You may not have chosen the situation you are in directly (that’s a subject for another day) but you do have the power to choose how you react to it. And your mind is where it’s at.

So before you even begin to formulate a plan on how you are going to fix or get out of a certain situation, you need to get your mindset right.

You need to convince yourself  and truly believe that you are going to find the right solution, you are going to get out of this, you are capable of overcoming this and you will reach whatever goal you have.

If you need a little extra help getting your mindset right, click HERE for my previous post on the 7 unconventional keys to success. And if you wanna take it a step further, click HERE for my eBook, the Ignition Toolbox.

Only once you’ve gotten your head in the game,  and really own the fact that you are on top on the situation, can you start to plan.

By having your mindset adequately aligned, you are setting yourself up to be more receptive to different ideas and more attuned to creative solutions you may not have thought of, had your mindset been off or worst, in a negative space.

Now that you are setup right, let’s plan! 


As you begin to formulate a plan as to how to get yourself out of a particular situation begin by asking yourself: what outcome am I looking for? Simply put, start with the end.

Begin planning by first looking at what you want as an end result and work your way up from there.

By starting from the bottom up, you are giving yourself a goal or a target to reach and aligning all your steps with that goal/target.

Your plan should have big steps and little steps to reach your goal.

Your big steps are the larger concepts you need to implement to reach your goal and the little steps are the concrete application of those concepts, into your daily life.

Let’s look at an example:

Let’s say, your self confidence is on the low side and you want to feel better about yourself, for yourself, by losing a few pounds.

First, determine your end goal: how much weight do you wanna lose? 10 pounds. By when: 2 months from now

That’s the end goal: 10 pounds within the next 2 months.

Big steps to lose that weight:

  • increase exercise activity to 30 minutes a day, 6 days a week
  • plan healthy meals ahead of time
  • eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day to prevent hunger
  • allow one cheat meal a week

Little steps to lose that weight:

  • increase exercise activity to 30 minutes a day, 6 days a week
    • wake up 30 minutes early every day, 6 days a week to fit in exercise
    • find Youtube fitness routine 3X a week
    • go for a walk/run 3 X a week
  • plan healthy meals ahead of time
    • one a week, sit down to plan meals for the week ahead
    • cook weekday meals in batches on Sundays and Wednesdays
    • make a grocery list every week before heading out to prevent temptation
  • eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day to prevent hunger
    • prepare and pack meals the night before so they are ready to go in the morning
    • leave a printed menu on the fridge door
  • allow one cheat meal a week
    • plan cheat meal to have something to look forward to every week

This is just an example but the list of small steps could go much further and in greater depth.

The point is to start by your goal and determine what needs to be done from there.

So don’t just plan for the worst and hope for the best: Plan like a boss and expect the best!

As always, I love hearing from you. Leave me a comment below and let me know how you set yourself up to tackle difficult situations or reach your goals.



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power to pause and regroup your thoughts

Do you know how to pause?


How often do you wake up with the best of intentions, ready to take on the day, your agenda already filled with the day’s goals, only to get derailed by one of life’s curve balls.

Maybe you got into a fight with your spouse, maybe you got a nasty phone call or maybe your toddler just wasn’t cooperating.

All of a sudden, you are filled with all these negative emotions and ready to toss aside whatever goals you had set for the day.

I’ve seen this happen numerous times.

Take dieting for example.

You start off with the best intentions the moment you step out of bed, but one indulgence of pastries or donuts completely during a morning board meeting completely derails your nutrition goals for the remainder of the day.

One not-so-healthy breakfast turns into a full day of bad food choices (and sometimes an entire weekend!), resulting in guilt, shame and the inevitable negative self-talk.

But there is a way to put an end to this negative thinking cycle and the bleeding of one bad moment into the rest of your day.

And that is, the Power to Pause.


When an unexpected event happens and you get caught up in its negativity, it is important to remember to just pause. Stop.

Stop whatever it is you are doing so you can change the energy.

All you need to do is to take a few deep breaths, regroup your thoughts, remember what you committed to for the day and why you committed to it and allow that positive, uplifting energy to settle back in your body, clearing out the negativity.

If you really want to harness the power of the pause, do this with your eyes close.

Here’s my weekly motivational video on the Power to Pause.



This video was inspired by a post my friend Heidi Kotler posted on her Instagram Feed. You can check out her amazing transformational journey towards health and fitness on IG under @heidi_kotler.

I hope you enjoy this video.

As always, I love hearing from you.

After you’ve watched this video let me know in what situation the power to pause has helped you or, in what situation your think you can apply the power to pause.

Leave me a comment below or email me.